In 2020 I wrote a post about a falsehood people believe about motherhood. In It is a 24/7 job for the rest of your life… I talked about how being a stay at home mom is easy. My conclusion was that motherhood itself isn’t hard, but what is hard is that it is NEVERENDING. From the moment they are born until long after they are adults, you are responsible for them.
In the spirit of that post I found a post where the author looked at the following statement:
There is no bigger lie told to mothers than ______.
The answers that she came up with were common ones:
- “You will love them the moment they are born.”
- “The weight will melt off with breastfeeding.”
- “You can/should sleep when the baby sleeps.”
- “It gets easier.”
- “It all comes together around the _____ week/month.”
- “It will come naturally.”
- “Anything with the word “all”. (All babies _____. All mothers ____.)”
- “Pregnancy is such a beautiful time.”
- “You can’t drink alcohol or coffee while breastfeeding.”
- “A healthy baby is all that matters.”
I feel like most of these statements aka lies are being told to new moms when giving advice to them.
It’s hard to ease the fears of another mom. Sometimes what you might consider wisdom might end up being a lie.
The only thing you can count on (the only truth you can know is a truth) when it comes to motherhood is that every mom is different and every kid is different. Sometimes you can hit the mark and make them feel better, but sometimes you’re way off.
What’s something someone has told you lately that was their truth but turned out to be a lie?