Heavy on the shoulders

I’ve reached the half way point of this series answering the questions listed on the original article called 38 Interesting Questions To Ask Your Mom Right Now. Part of me is excited to answer all these questions and part of me suddenly feels like I’m talking an awful lot about myself.

What do you think?

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My other posts that are answers to this list of questions are:


23. What do I need to know about our family’s medical history that could affect my health or life?

I don’t think I realized just how important these types of questions would be until I got into my forties and my friends parents started to pass away. My husband’s father died right around the time we met but other than that all my friends parents are still thankfully around.

My parents have only started to have major health issues in their 70s. My grandfather and great grandfather died early, but my father has been battling along sometimes reluctantly into his 70s. Most recently he battled skin cancer that metastasized into his lungs. Quite ironic if you ask me since his father died of throat cancer and my father has always been very careful of keeping his lungs healthy. My grandmother, his mom, has battled small patches of skin cancer, but nothing that has caused her to see major treatments. She’s in her late 90s and the only thing that seems to get her down lately is being isolated because of the pandemic. Mental health for a lot of people right now has been affected.

My mother most recently had two shoulder replacement surgeries. It’s crazy to me to think that she had these replaced. She was a teacher most of her working life and while she did do some drumming in her 60s, most of the activities she did weren’t heavy on the shoulders. It makes me wonder about my own shoulders because lately they’ve been not as smooth as they were in my 30s and 20s. I played basketball and golf so there is a lot of arm use in both those sports, but lately with running being my main action sport I thought I’d be more worried about my knees than my legs.

24. What was the day I was born (or adopted) like?

My mom always told me that I was born in the middle of a snow storm and that while I did come home on time I was quickly returned to the NICU because of meninghitis. Luckily it was caught early and I battled through and have made it to my 40s.

Both my kids were born pretty much without drama. Both of my labors started around 4:30am and neither kid was born until after lunch. The first was born at almost 8pm and the other was born around lunch time.


Have you thought about sharing your medical history with your children? Is it something you plan to do in the future? I’d love to know how to start that kind of conversation. I’ve always been pretty open with my kids about my health, but I wonder sometimes if I’ve told them enough or told them too little.

Published by Patty Gordon

I’m Patty Gordon, a 40+ year old school lunch lady married to a crane mechanic. Our days are anything but normal as he works “construction worker hours” and I take care of our two elementary school aged kids, Chihuahua Mr Biggs, Pitbull Cali, and French Bulldog MooMoo. I blogged a few years ago under different names but have landed with the 365MomMe name this time around. The term 365MomMe comes from the idea that I’m a mom and I’m me 365 days a year. Kids call me Mommy but I see myself as MomMe.

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