Thoughts on kindness featuring topics from The Purpose Show Podcast

As an elementary school volunteer and the mother of two under ten, the subject of kindness come up a lot. It surfaces both in the classroom and at home and while each situation may differ, it is something we definitely need to take a closer look at in this day and age of bullying, online comments, and road rage.

I knew this subject was important years ago when I spoke to my mother who was a teacher for my whole life.  She said kindness went out the window like someone flipped a switch off. One year it was there and the next it was gone.

Recently I listened to a podcast from The Purpose Show Episode 064- Teaching Kids Kindness with The Ruth Projectwhere she spoke on the subject of kindness. A lot of great topics came up in the conversation. 

Here are a few thoughts on the subject of kindness:


Friday Five:


  1. It shocked me last week when at our school’s fun run a mom seemed surprised that a student turned around and helped up another student who had fallen during one of their laps. Should this be a shocking thing that one person is nice to another? If so, why are we so surprised at behavior that we should be expecting from our untainted children?
  2. The Ruth Project happens to be a faith-based group. Their acts of kindness are inspired came about when the moms of the group decided to try to have a “different kind of Christmas” for their kids. This seems to be a common practice for people who are on the more religious side of things. Are religious people the only types of people who are teaching their kids the important of kindness? If so no wonder this mother was so surprised to see an act of kindness in a public school setting. We teach that people should be kind to one another during the school day but I guess it takes more backing from home to get this idea into kids’ heads.
  3. Modeling good behavior is one way to reinforce the kindness idea for your kids. I think a lot of parents forget how much their kids look up to them. They don’t realize that their playful banter sometimes can be redirected to their kids’ friends without understanding the difference between joking around and really meaning it. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not at all perfect at this. It can be hard to do as I say and not as I do.
  4. The idea of snarky attitudes came up in the conversation. I’ll be the first one to raise my hand to say that a good bit of snarky comments are funny from time to time. The problem with it when modeling snarky behavior in front of little ones is that they get the idea that having a laugh at the expense of another person is ok. Really it’s not. Really I should watch what I say in front of the kids. It definitely gave me a lot of food for thought.
  5. When someone does forget to be kind the concept of forced apologies entered the circle. While most people do agree that forced apologies have some purpose in a child’s life, there seems to be a consensus that while it may be forced it needs to be purposeful. One mom said that she has her kid say the person’s name and exactly what they are sorry for, while another mom talked about how the child should recognize the emotion on the other person’s face so that they can realize that their lack of kindness made a huge impact on the person.

What are your thoughts on kindness? 

Do you think you can teach it without a biblical reference to help enforce the idea? Do you force your kids to apologize even if they might not mean it in the moment?


For more information on this podcast you can read the show notes here: http://alliecasazza.com/shownotes/064


Published by Patty Gordon

I’m Patty Gordon, a 40+ year old school lunch lady married to a crane mechanic. Our days are anything but normal as he works “construction worker hours” and I take care of our two elementary school aged kids, Chihuahua Mr Biggs, Pitbull Cali, and French Bulldog MooMoo. I blogged a few years ago under different names but have landed with the 365MomMe name this time around. The term 365MomMe comes from the idea that I’m a mom and I’m me 365 days a year. Kids call me Mommy but I see myself as MomMe.

2 thoughts on “Thoughts on kindness featuring topics from The Purpose Show Podcast

  1. This is such an important post. As a former school counselor I always tried to instill a message of kindness in all of my lessons, even the ones that weren’t directly about kindness! You’re so right about the modeling, kids are seriously sponges and will happily give out whatever they see from their role models, even if it’s not the type of message we intended to teach 😬 I’m so glad to see most people seem to be turning in the direction of raising kind kids!

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    1. Thanks so much for the comment!

      Kindness is such an easy thing to practice and yet people seem to have forgotten how important it really is. In school now they teach about Character Counts or some program like that and it helps kids practice better relationship skills with their peers but I feel like it should start at home and be a daily thing not just a school time practice.

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